Closing Shop For a Few Days
It’s hard to believe that fall has long been upon us and it is already Thanksgiving weekend! As a full time working mom, I am constantly on the go and doing what so many moms today do: trying so hard to balance work and family, and making sure that no matter what family comes out on top! This year I made the bold and much complained about decision not to cook for Thanksgiving dinner but to go out to eat instead! I can actually hear your gasp of horror as you read this too. But, I knew I would be working through Wednesday, and my kids are already in high school. Time is flying by way to quickly. I decided I do not need to impress or prove anything to anyone with my cooking and entertaining, and that I really just simply wanted to enjoy my kids, husband, parents, sister, and dog. I also wanted to pass this message on to my daughter. So, on Thanksgiving Day, I tried very hard not to touch my computer, and I did actually very much relax and enjoy my family. My hope is that after a few days off, I will come back more inspired than ever for my voiceover work!
The Psychology Behind It
Since I started my voiceover business years ago, I have talked to so many women about maintaining this balance between work and home, and preventing sprawl. Because I work at home, it is particularly difficult when I am working on a big contract or when a new booking comes in after hours not to immediately respond. Holidays are no different.
I started my business for my children. First, I needed to help support them financially, so my voiceover career is part of that. But, I also wanted to teach Emma and Jack that if you pursue your dreams and work hard you can achieve your goals. So, when work comes in, my instinct is to pounce.
I am also trying to teach both children, but especially my daughter, the importance of boundaries. It took me far to long to be able to make my boundaries clear and to stand up for what made sense. As a working mom, it in no way made sense to spend a week preparing and days cleaning up for our usually dinner of 20-25. I was willing to sacrifice not seeing some of our family and friends to have more time with my children. I had to simplify. I did not learn this until recently, but if I do not make choices like this it is my children who suffer. My father is still whining about carving the turkey and the green bean casserole, but I can’t make everyone happy and I have to come to terms with that too.
The Actual Dinner
We found an actual sit-down four course dinner at a historic in about 20 minutes west of us called the Old Mill Inn. It was not a good omen when they lost our reservation! They were ultimately able to accommodate as at 5:45 which was fine. When we got there we had to wait about an hour to be seated. I did not mind because the place was charming and I was not doing any heavy labor. My family was not thrilled. When we were finally seated, the food was wonderful. I particularly enjoyed the delicious turkey which was quite moist. The desert table was lacking. But, we had fun and it was relaxing and lovely. I came home to a clean house and could go to bed at the same time as my family. We also spent significantly less money going out to eat. I was delighted by the entire experience.
Not cooking was actually quite remarkable. Because I didn’t cook and clean, I was not tired on Friday! I was able to go to lunch with my family and brave the mall and the sales. I had so much fun. On Saturday my daughter realized that she left her wallet at the restaurant where we had eaten on Thursday, so we had to drive back out there. Saturday was also “Small Business Saturday.” As a women owned small business myself, it was important to me to do home of my holiday gift shopping at some local small businesses which was a lot of fun. I also loved looking at all the decorations.
All in all, as a momtrepreneur, by making the bold and shocking move of eating out on the holiday, I felt like I had a holiday with my family. I loved every minute of it and I am so thankful for this precious time with my twins and as it is going by way too quickly!